Why is change so hard? “Change” can almost be considered a swear word in my book. I’m serious, change starts coming my way and I immediately want to put my fingers in my ears and run in the other direction or be really dramatic and scream “nooooooooooooo” like I’m in an action movie hanging off a building. Someone says the word “change” and I immediately fall into the fetal position and cry for my mommy. Ok, I’m done being annoying, I just really wanted you guys to know how much I used to hate change. Did I do a good job? 😉
Change is inevitable. There I said it. If you can get that engraved in your mind it honestly does help. We’re all human which means we all create specific, sometimes unbelievably specific plans (I’m talking to you type A’s) as to what life will hold for us and when those things will happen. For example; I thought I would be married by 22, have kids a few years later so I would be a ‘hot mom’, have a million dollars in my rainy day fund, run my own business encouraging people full time and have 77 dogs. Oh, and all of those things would happen before I turned 30. Duh. Now here’s what really happened; I dropped out of college at 22 because I hated it and had no clue what I wanted to do, worked odd jobs making nowhere near a million dollars, married Dan when I was 26, currently have no kids and don’t plan on having one any time soon, I have two dogs and I do encourage people as a part time job but I’m still hustling to make it my full time job. I’m now 28 (well I will be in like 10 days) so yeah, things didn’t pan out as I had planned. What a surprise, huh?
Well guess what? It’s ok. It’s ok when life doesn’t pan out exactly how you thought it would. I’m serious, you’re ok and it’s ok. We put so much pressure on ourselves to follow this weird timeline the world has set for us. We look at other girls and guys online and compare our looks, careers, marriages and homes to theirs. Why though? We don’t know what their life is actually like behind closed doors. We don’t know their struggles, hardships and heartaches. You’re not falling behind. You’re right where you need to be right in this exact moment. Think about that! God has you in this specific moment, specific job, specific relationship for a specific purpose.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares The Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” Jeremiah 29:11
If my ideal plan panned out exactly how I thought it would, I would’ve never met Dan, I would’ve never pursued my dreams, I would’ve never had the time to heal wounds between my family members, I would’ve never had the huge season of growth I experienced a couple years ago, I would’ve never travelled and lived in a van and I would’ve never been as close to Jesus as I am now.
Jesus knows who we are, what we need, where we’re going and what we’re going to accomplish. His plan is so much more amazing than what you can even fathom right now! When you start to feel like you’re losing this race at life, sit down and right down how far you’ve come in the last six months, year, three years. You’ll be amazed I promise you that. Oh, and don’t forget life is not a race. When you feel like God has forgotten about you, just remember He’s busy up in heaven making sure your life is even more incredible than what you’re doing now. That’s some awesome hope, isn’t it? Don’t ever lose that hope, it’s sometimes all you can hold onto during hard seasons. Don’t ever forget God’s promises He has made to YOU. Here are a few tips I use to handle change in my life. I hope they help you too!
- Take life one day at a time. Don’t think about what you want, remember what you have. There are small joys that happen every day, but when we’re so in our heads and constantly thinking about the future, we lose sight of everything that is happening today. Today is all you need to think about.
- Control your thoughts so they don’t control you. I know how hard this is, but if you can train your mind to push away negative thoughts and turn the negative into positive, your attitude on life will be all around more positive.
- Since change is inevitable, promise yourself you’ll still be happy. Don’t forget God’s plan for you life. He hasn’t given up on you. He loves you x infinity. Just because plans don’t seem to be working out how you thought they would doesn’t mean good things aren’t happening or won’t happen soon.
- Being happy is a choice. It’s so easy to let the weight of the world get us down. How we feel in life is our choice and that includes happiness. Make a decision every morning to be happy, to see the good in people, to roll with the punches and be thankful you’re alive and healthy.
Trusting God’s plan for your life frees yourself of worry and opens you up to more happiness. Happiness that only God can give. Trust in God’s promises and His timing. I swear to God himself, He has not abandoned you and He never ever will. Find the joy in what is happening right now not in what you wish was happening.
I know I said this already but I’m going to tell you again. You’re ok. You’re right where you need to be. You’re not behind. God hasn’t forgotten about you. He hasn’t abandoned you. He wants the very best for you. He loves you more than you can ever imagine. Your hard work will pay off. He has plans for you so kick butt you can’t even begin to understand what they may be. Change is inevitable but it doesn’t always have to be bad. Change is meant for growth, new destinations, new people, new opportunities and new ways to trust God. God is orchestrating your steps right now!
Life is hard sometimes and life is so short. Don’t fear change, embrace it knowing God is preparing you for one heck of a ride. A ride so fulfilling and full of joy you’re going to be doing the Irish Jig instead of walking because that’s just how happy you’ll be 😉
“The Lord himself will lead you and be with you. He will not fail you or abandon you, so do not lose courage or be afraid” Deuteronomy 31:8
PS- I have a couple free printables! A ‘My Blessings List’ and a ‘Dream Sheet’- if you’re interested in either shoot me an email and I’ll send it your way! It’s just a little something to start your week off the right way. firstname.lastname@example.org
Thanks for reading along! Love ya!